How Self-Care Can Turn to Self-Sabotage, If Not Careful

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How Self-Care Can Turn to Self-Sabotage, If Not Careful

Emily Roberts, MA, LPC, a therapist at Hartstein Psychological Services, was recently featured in an article, “The Easy Way That Self-Care Can Backfire” on Greatist.com that dives deep into the difference between self-care and self-sabotage.


The Easy Way That Self-Care Can Backfire

by Jandra Sutton, Greatist.com (read the article here)

Sleeping in, drinking, comfort eating, procrastinating, and other forms of self-medicating can be harmless, but it’s not hard to fall from self-care into self-sabotage.

I love the self-care movement. I’m still a huge advocate of self-care, and I talk about it almost constantly on social media and with my friends and family.

However, I’d become confused about what self-care is and what it is not.

To better understand self-care, I spoke with Emily Roberts, M.A., LPC, a psychotherapist and the author of Express Yourself: A Teen Girl’s Guide to Speaking Up and Being Who You Are, who explains that true self-care is about intention.

Self-care self-sabotage“The No. 1 thing to remember is that self-care means treating your body and mind with care. So self-care isn’t gorging on donuts or overspending at your spa to ‘feel good,'” Roberts says. “It’s about your intention. If you need to take time out of your busy day because you’ve been at the computer and your eyes are glazing over, you don’t go to lunch for three hours and grab a few glasses of wine. You go to lunch, get off your screen, and take a walk around the block because you are trying to make your body feel re-energized.”

Self-care, she says, is about learning to listen to your body (and your mind) and making an effort to build a better relationship with yourself. Self-care is about learning to take a minute or two to be mindful, to check in with yourself, and to go from there. While this can be difficult, it’s important to remember that self-care is an ongoing practice, not an individual action. It takes time, but—in the end—it’s totally worth it.