The need for positive self-esteem comes with psychological growth and the desire to trust ourselves. Building up self-esteem takes time and determination, but it is absolutely possible.
In Cognitive Behavior Therapy, we call a thinking mistake, catastrophizing. It happens when one overestimates a threat of danger that the worst case scenario will happen. It also can be compounded when a person simultaneously underestimates their own coping skills. This then leads to a heightened emotion of fear, more commonly known as anxiety and worry.
Most parents misunderstand motivation. We think what motivates us will also motivate our children. However, that’s not necessarily the case.